Children come in all manner of personalities, from those who are destined to be great leaders and attract friends easily, to those who hide behind their parents in social situations. As parents we don’t want to see shyness crippling our small ones. As a parent of an introvert it can be challenging to help them integrate and find their voice. However shyness is a very natural stage of childhood and for many is a passing phase.
Introverts are often happiest on their own and they need space to recharge and energise themselves. Being introverted should not be seen a weakness but having the confidence and skills to interact in group settings is important for development too.
As parents we can help shy children to find their feet and interact in appropriate ways.
- Celebrate your children, when they have engaged with a new situation recognise the achievement and praise them.
- Provide small daily opportunities for your child to try new activities. Classes like Cricket Tots encourage cooperation and fun in a safe environment. It is a great way to develop new friendships.
- Find a friend for your child. Who do they want to be friends with? Help develop this friendship with a play date. This will give the opportunity for a friendship yo blossom.
- Don’t label the behaviour or allow others too in front of your child. This can build it up instead of dispelling it. If someone says your child is shy reply with a positive answer ‘they are fine they just take a few minutes to settle and then get involved’
- Listen carefully to a shy child and let the lead at their pace. Small steps will grow confidence far quickly than by pushing them too fast.
Do you have a shy child? How have you helped them overcome it?